Choosing another goodbye
A relative offers a hug, and your child would rather wave.
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Feel Respected
A gentle path through consent, body autonomy, privacy and saying no.
My body, comfort and boundaries deserve respect.
Moments you may recognise
Small moments you may recognise.
These moments can mean different things. Begin with what you notice, and leave room for your child’s side.
Play needs to pause
During tickling or a game, your child says “Stop” or moves away.
Asking for space
Your child wants a little privacy or a choice about physical affection.
What this may be about
Hold certainty lightly.
A child may be practising ownership of their body, comfort and boundaries. Their voice can matter even when every answer cannot be yes; boundaries include mutual respect.
“I might need to know that my no will be noticed, even when you still have to guide me.”
Illustrative perspective—not a claim about any child’s literal thoughts.
What you might try
Small ways to support your child.
Choose what fits the moment, and leave time to notice how your child responds.
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Pause and listen
When a child expresses a limit during play or affection, stop and check in.
“I heard you say stop. I’m stopping.”
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Offer a real choice
Suggest alternatives you can comfortably accept.
“Would you like to wave goodbye or say goodbye from here?”
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Model asking first
Make asking and accepting an answer part of ordinary interactions.
“May I give you a hug? It’s okay to say no.”
Conversation starters
Words that leave room for an answer.
Would you like a hug, a wave or something else?
What would feel comfortable instead?
How can we respect both people’s boundaries here?
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